The Strongest Wife.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Assalamualaikum wbt.
There are few obligations said by the Prophet Muhammad pbuh made as compulsory for a righteous Muslim to fulfil. One of it, is to visit the sick. Today, my parents-in-law told me regarding their plan to visit an old friend who has been discharged from the ICU. He is a ustadh. He has a family of four. His wife, two children and himself. They live in Nilai.
Upon reaching the house, we noticed it looked unmade, and everything is not in place. Their children were jumping around here and there. For a normal person, not knowing what they have been through, we might have thought, what you can't even make your house and discipline your kids ?
Let me tell you a story, of the strongest wife.
The wife to an ustadh. The ustadh has been on dialysis for more than 10 years. He has critical diabetes beforehand. They used to live in Damansara (High-end place in Kuala Lumpur). Due to his dialysis treatment 3 times a week that requires a lot of money, they had to give up the house and move far away from Kuala Lumpur, and settled in Nilai. At the time, the ustadh was still able to teach at a nearby university. After a while, his health deteriorated. He could no longer teach. Soon, he could no longer drive. His wife had to give up her work. In order to take care of the children & her husband.
She is the one sending her children to school, running errands, sending him to the dialysis centre, fetching the children from school, pay bills, buy groceries, everything. Recently, they went to perform Umrah during Ramadan. On the final 10 nights of Ramadan, she was the one doing the human shield to protect her husband from being pushed by millions of people. She was the one who protects her children from being shoved by large Arabs. To my surprise, she was the one pushing the husband's wheelchair across millions of people in Masjidil Haram every single day without fail. She took care of the children during prayers, suhoor & iftar. When the children were too tired to walk, they would climbed up to their father & he would hold them. And it was her who pushed the wheelchair all the way to their accomodation. She had to make several trips to get everyone to their room. Her children, her husband, and the wheelchair.
They celebrated Eid in Mecca. It was the most wonderful Eid she ever had. The ustadh's health further deteriorates on the way back to Malaysia. He had nosebleed inside the plane & was quickly brought to the hospital upon reaching Malaysian soil. I was not cleared what caused the bleed, but he was admitted in the ICU for several days.
I was sceptical at first upon seeing her house for the first time. But when I heard her stories when they performed Umrah, when I know her background, I was devastated. With myself. How could I ever judged her without even knowing her.
How could she ever has the strength, the determination, the power, the will to take care of the household by herself without a job. To take care of the children and the husband. What makes me even more devastated was, when I learned, they were never given any children since they married each other. All the hard work, the time, energy and money is spent to raise 2 adopted children.
Their marriage is being tested by the biggest challenge, which is not having any children. Not having any offspring has to be most challenging trial a married couple would ever encounter. And they are the few chosen people by Allah SWT to experience the challenge. How truly, Allah SWT love them all. The wife, never complains. She would settle & say ; This is all the sustenance from Allah SWT, be grateful.
How huge the reward waiting for her in Jannah. Whenever I remember her, I would choke. How huge her sacrifices are. How patient she is. How wonderful she is. She will be the leader of all the muslimah in Jannah insyaAllah.
She makes me wonder, am I a good wife? What would happen if let say Allah SWT would give me such trial. Would I caved & ran away? Or would I embrace & go through it? She would have never thought these things would happen when she first married him. Who would have known what would happen even 10 minutes from now ? If I had to face such trial, what would happen then ?
Allah, I beg your mercy. Give the wife the highest place, the best rank in Jannah. Grant the husband, the best seat at your side. Make the children become the brightest kid in everything. Allah, make us all, the wives to be the best wife & mother for our family. Come what may, give us strength & peace to get through it. Allah, the turner of hearts, do not turn our hearts from our desire destination, make us walk still in the righteous path. We are weak, without your help, we would sway & be hopeless. Oh Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful.
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